Posts Tagged ‘A Good Life’
Posted By Lynn / 16th February 2014 / No comments yet
Check out Lynn’s weekend intensive workshop on overwhelm: “Transforming Too Much into ENOUGH” is February 22 & 23, 12:30-3:30 at Centered, 309 North Ashland Avenue, Lexington. Registration: WWW.CENTEREDLEX.com *Deadline for sign-up is Monday, February 17!
Overwhelm is an invitation to what? You say overwhelm has a death grip on you; you didn’t choose to be in overwhelm.
Well, I’m going to be unpopular in saying this, but yes, you did!
As our world has become more complicated and sophisticated, there are many traps that we fall into that lead us down the overwhelm path. While we recognize the positive advances and technological gains, we need to have a relationship with the shadow side of all of our progress. Without owning this we are vulnerable, as we don’t see our power in co-creating overwhelm.
We literally can have too much of a good thing. We now have more choices, options, access to too many things, and difficulty shutting off, turning off and having enough. Additionally, the world, our jobs, families have more expectations of us. We have more expectations. Good is simply not enough. We need more. Better. Best.
While there are many self-help books dedicated to sophisticated systems to overcome overwhelm, the real ticket is to start at the beginning and cultivate a vision of where we truly want to go…. in our journey with our work, relationships, life. Without unlocking this, we are continuously vulnerable to getting lost in the overwhelm conundrum.
Overwhelm is an invitation to step into our power. Ultimately we are the creators of our path. Period. While we don’t have control over what happens to us, we can access choice in creating a vision for ourselves and the power of choice in crafting our responses in life: where we want to be, how we want to be, how we want to get there, etc. Once we know what we care about, and where we’re going, we can let go and begin the co-creative process.
What have you been saying “yes” to in your overwhelm?
Once we know what is not aligned with our higher vision, we can let go of all of those traps: beliefs, actions that support overwhelm and keep us on detours from ourselves. We can let go of the false illusion that we can make others happy, that we need to be perfect or the best, or that we’re not enough and learn to step more fully into the power that we have to choose.
As we accept the invitation that overwhelm offers, we can center, activate choice and begin to create our vision with action. This is when we are in the flow of life and truly able to activate the power to fulfill our potential.
Posted By Lynn / 11th November 2011 / No comments yet
Yes, this is my white belt and it is one of my most treasured possessions. I received this as a gift from my ontological coaching program Newfield Network as a reminder of the importance of being a “white belt” in life. Simply put, wearing my white belt grounds me in the awareness of embodying life as a beginner.
I keep it in my bedroom so that I can maintain my daily intention throughout my day. As I greet my day each morning, I engage in a practice of holding it. We often only think of practice as a verb — learning to master something in order to get there: thinner, smarter, richer, etc. However, when used as a noun, practice describes something you engage in as a regular part of your life — not as something that you do, but something you are.
My son, upon hearing my attachment to it, laughed and said, “No mama, you’ve got it all wrong, you want to have a black belt — not a white belt.”
Yes, I get the black belt stuff. It’s everywhere. Our brains are constantly having this conversation about lacking, needing, more. There is an abundant supply of this everywhere. Our world does not let us forget that we always could be better and do more — that a “good life” is being the best and having “the best”, always striving for more. I’ve tried the black belt thing and find this way of being leaves me tired, empty and anxious.
Most importantly, my white belt represents the power of choice — in how I choose everyday to see things in my life. Every moment, every day, I have a choice in how I choose to view life.
As I contemplate starting my day, I choose to see life as learning and being a beginner. There is an ease and lightness in the simplicity in keeping it small. The lens of a beginner makes everyday tasks and even tough moments a lot easier to tackle.
My white belt gives me permission to be “the fool”, be silly, take risks, be bold and mess up. In being a beginner, I can live in the questions without knowing the answers. I can live in a mood of curiousity, rather than having the “right answers”. This creates a sense of awe in which we can let go of the certainties to touch the mysteries in life.
My white belt invites the paradox of being complete and incomplete at the same time. I trust that I am enough. I am good, I am pure, I am whole. I am not perfect, nor do I need to be. When I have this foundation I also can see where I need to grow, learn and tackle new challenges.
This seems to be the foundation that many of us are missing as we’re moving through our lives as black belts. No thing can make us more whole or complete. No accomplishment. Nothing can do this but us acknowledging our essential goodness. From here, yes, anything is possible.
When wearing my white belt, I choose to be grounded in the present instead of reaching ahead. When we are striving for results we often become future-focused, which limits our way of viewing life. In this mindset, we confuse living with control and think the answer to a “good life” is managing and controlling the world around us. A wise man says, “when we have the truth, we expect others to obey us.”
With my white belt, I choose gratitude. I appreciate what I have and see that it is enough. Often in pursuing the black belt, we lose gratitude.
I continue to “earn it” everyday as my white belt has become a practice in daily living. It is never done and always unfolding. However with my white belt, life is viewed as a learning journey. Instead of worrying about tomorrow and what’s coming next, I accept the mystery as part of the journey — and a part of life.
I invite you to try on your white belt today and see what shows up for you.
“Dwell as near as possible to the channel in which your life flows.”
~Henry David Thoreau
Posted By Lynn / 19th September 2011 / No comments yet
This being human is a guest house
every morning a new arrival.
A joy, a depression, a meanness,
some momentary awareness comes
as an unexpected visitor.
Welcome and entertain them all!
Even if they are a crowd of sorrows,
who violently sweep your house
empty of its furniture,
still treat each guest honorably.
He may be clearing you out for some new delight.
The dark thought, the shame, the malice,
meet them at the door laughing,
and invite them in.
Be grateful for whoever comes,
because each has been sent
as a guide from beyond.